tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post5744338392644454266..comments2023-06-27T04:58:40.299-07:00Comments on Polar's Page: When it really isn't all your faultPolar's Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10714065039614278619noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-25813617981526825212011-01-12T06:17:54.457-08:002011-01-12T06:17:54.457-08:00That's it -- I'm packing up and heading fo...That's it -- I'm packing up and heading for Iowa!The Merryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09660495393832517684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-22725339453348679342011-01-08T19:26:45.415-08:002011-01-08T19:26:45.415-08:00I am glad you are happy now. You deserve it. Life ...I am glad you are happy now. You deserve it. Life isn't fair and when it happens like it did twice, that's even worse. You learned, I am glad. Thank you for sharing. I had one of "those" but left him beat up in a corn field after one last beating of mine. Couldn't take it any longer. Told this one touch me, your dead. Never have to worry, not then or now but wanted to make it clear. And really I'm a nice person but won't put up with that crap. <br />Take care and God Bless!!!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15956818436541141380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-91274915158647072822011-01-08T12:14:09.010-08:002011-01-08T12:14:09.010-08:00I want to say positive things like this made you a...I want to say positive things like this made you a better person, or this helps you appreciate what you have now. But, this just makes me angry. Not at you, but for those jerks for treating you like that! I want to hunt them down and do some damage!Bethannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11446114301303603843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-73973533121657635142011-01-08T04:52:10.633-08:002011-01-08T04:52:10.633-08:00Thank you for sharing. It is not surprising, but c...Thank you for sharing. It is not surprising, but certainly an eye-opener that i have read so many blog entries like this from my weight-loss pals the last few days. I myself, can emphathise completely. I went from a bad (abusive) 4yr relationship to an abusive marriage to a 4yr relationship with a guy who i thought was completely different, but ended up doing all the things the others had done to me too. And, as you described above, i ate (and drank) my feelings every time i was beaten/ left alone with the baby/ cheated on / lied to etc etc. <br />Although it seems odd to state this, i am glad that i have now so many friends in the weight loss community (here) that know what it's like and i truly believe that together we can all break free.<br /><br />Also, i am glad you have your happy ending <br /><br />xxxx<br />lesleyLife as a Caterpillarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12060619595546876393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-978162278306940432011-01-08T02:50:25.510-08:002011-01-08T02:50:25.510-08:00Thanks for sharing, and if I'm understanding, ...Thanks for sharing, and if I'm understanding, it looks like you did end up with a good guy? I certainly hope so and am sorry about Polar...Dinnerlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10692242456211545949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-13519679592754763552011-01-07T18:29:14.032-08:002011-01-07T18:29:14.032-08:00Now that was an illuminating post. Self revealing,...Now that was an illuminating post. Self revealing, honest and inspirational. I am guessing your hubby is nothing like those two OTHER jerks!<br /><br />But, the truth is we are battered women, too, when we do not take care of ourselves. When we IGNORE the fact (like I did) that I was obese and live in denial. We are battering the most important woman in the world, ourselves, me. So, great post. Lots to chew on.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16422138891797605472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-72125976359250863552011-01-07T18:07:53.808-08:002011-01-07T18:07:53.808-08:00Hey Polar's Mom -- lots of painful wisdom in t...Hey Polar's Mom -- lots of painful wisdom in that post. Abuse (verbal, physical, emotional, whatever) is so soul-killing just to witness -- I can't imagine experiencing it. Am so glad you kicked both those jerks to the curb. Also really liked some of your prior posts (catching up on my reading) esp your musings on skinny people vs. those of us in 'fat-dom' and how we fill our time, etc... I've asked myself the same questions -- and especially mulled over how to make weight loss fun, and less of a ..... slog to the goalpost, I guess. No great answers, except I think to accept maybe that the weight-loss portion has to be very 'eyes on the prize' mentality, but maybe maintenance can be a bit more light-hearted and fun. Hope so, anyway!Call me Ishmaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14135619200570288287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-48668948329679511082011-01-07T14:22:55.642-08:002011-01-07T14:22:55.642-08:00Ah, the cheater. The lousy, wretched men that the...Ah, the cheater. The lousy, wretched men that they are. And WE are the ones that seem to pay for their behaviors. I have been there, done that. Love the honesty of this post; thank you for baring yourself to make this point.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02206154638036351459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-1222839007510490922011-01-07T11:52:29.378-08:002011-01-07T11:52:29.378-08:00I put on a lot of weight with Son's father (wh...I put on a lot of weight with Son's father (who was a cheater) as well as emotionally and financially abusive and just before I met Hubs, I had dated a guy who was emotionally and physically abusive and I started packing on weight after I started dating Hubs probably because I hadn't dealt with my last abusive relationship...FatAngryBloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11111350848902455866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-92189435997335948382011-01-07T11:28:34.487-08:002011-01-07T11:28:34.487-08:00I should have said that I met my awesome husband i...I should have said that I met my awesome husband in Iowa, not everyone knows that so the joke may be lost. ;-)Polar's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10714065039614278619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-69197863170407800252011-01-07T11:18:31.400-08:002011-01-07T11:18:31.400-08:00They are out there! I found mine when I moved to ...They are out there! I found mine when I moved to Kansas, of all the crazy places! You deserve a wonderful man who treats you like a queen:)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086719828916510651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1467905502278598565.post-7287065894895910292011-01-07T11:08:10.348-08:002011-01-07T11:08:10.348-08:00SO sad you had to learn these lessons the hard way...SO sad you had to learn these lessons the hard way. REALLY hard way. My heart goes out to you! Just keep focusing on #7! There are nice ones out there! :-)Debbi Does Dinner Healthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11091564423796146580noreply@blogger.com