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Friday, January 14, 2011

You never realize how sh*tty you really looked...

Until scores of random people tell you how GREAT you look now...(GREAT being said with loads of cheerleader enthusiasm and grotesque shocked/awed faces, at waaay too high a decibel).

Sure leave it to me to be glass half empty, but damn!  Not that I thought I looked GOOD per se, occasional pictures never let my grandiose visions go that far, but I wasn't a hobbit...

Or so I thought...

Not only do people not recognize me now, like my really good friend that I hadn't seen in a few months, but then they say, "Wow, you really are looking great!"

I really shouldn't be looking a gift compliment in the mouth, I know this, cause hey it is super cool for people to say nice things to you AND have less mean things to say about you behind your back, but DUDE.

But to let the extraordinarily small percentage of glass half full to rear her pretty head for a second, I am so happy to be noticed for being pretty again.  Sounds materialistic, but hey, every NSV counts!

I think one thing that I really notice myself, is that I LOOK pretty again-and let's face it my face has and always will be my one good feature (since the boobs are not happy to be on a diet).  When I was younger, family and friends would always tell me how pretty I was (not to be snobby, just stating what they said).  

When I was fatter, I couldn't see that prettiness no matter how much I worked the makeup or hair, and I thought my looks had actually changed underneath, that I was destined to be average.  Because honestly, I totally blended into the wall.

And that was preferred even better because when I was fat I didn't want recognition or attention.  But now that I am skinnier, I am kind of relieved that my face is still my face underneath-I haven't lost the one thing that I actually liked about myself. 

I'm sure you have seen that with alot of people, they look pretty average in the face, but when they lose weight, you realize that they are pretty darn attractive-I've seen that alot on the Biggest Loser especially.

So to those who are just starting, having a tough time after the holidays, losing track of their mojo, need a lift, just hang in there...and before you know it you will be inundated with left handed compliments, too!  Have a great weekend, everyone!

16 comments:

Mom to the Fourth Power said...

The best NSV is how we feel about our appearance, I think! I wish you'd post pictures!!!! :)

~Margene

Trisha said...

I agree with Margene!!

Miss Vickie "The Queen Bee" said...

I know what you mean. I have had such a round puffy, fat face for years. It's kind of nice to see a little definition in it. Take all the compliments you can get, honey!

Bethanny said...

You know whats the worst? Realizing how people discussed my weight behind my back and are now discussing the loss. I guess I can give them something to talk about :/

Waisting Time said...

I struggle with saying anything to someone who has lost weight for that reason. Recently I saw someone and had to say something because I felt it would be strange if I didn't. I even went so far as to tell her how much younger she looked and then worried that might come out wrong!

Chubby McGee said...

I'm hangin'. Thank you!

Trisha said...

You have an award waiting for you. :)

Blubeari said...

lol. :)

I honestly don't take it as an insult to my previous image when people compliment me now because I KNEW how bad I looked when I was heavier. I was miserable and I hated mirrors. I was plenty aware of how bad I looked. I'm just glad I don't look that way anymore!!

Sue said...

It is so true, I had 2 compliments at work the other day. 1 from a woman I detest, she then goes on to tell me that she doesn't hand out compliments unless she means them (not very often either apparently) and then a random guy that I see in the tea room everyday but don't talk to, said gee you've lost allot of weight! And to tell you the truth I haven't lost it on the scales but I obviously have lost something somewhere, I know that not eating my salt laden things have made me feel thinner and less bloated. Or maybe they are picking up on my more confident self now that I know on 'the plan' I will succeed this time.
Oh and I also agree with above bloggers, give us some photo's girl, of you not the dogs ....

Sue said...

Don't forget peoples there is a photo on Oct 7 2010, just had to go back to find it again LOL

Julie said...

Just except and smile and enjoy the now. Can't change the before. I know it's hard, believe me I know.
Take care my friend and have a blessed weekend.

Kelly! said...

hahaha i hate it when there is the double sided compliment. But hey, you know you look good girl so just embrace today! and I agree let's see some pictures of all this hard work you've made :D

Ron said...

If they say "you are really looking great" that doesn't mean they thought you didn't look great before, Be glad they didn't say something like, Damn you look so much better than before.....LOL You have worked hard, enjoy the compliments

Natasha said...

What a great NSV! Thanks for all the sweet comments on my posts, and for reading my blog. I'm new to yours and will definitely be a frequent reader :)

Michele said...

What a great bunch line at the end!! That is just terrific that you are finding the pretty YOU within. You care is paying off in spades, now, and will continue.

Thanks so much for all your comments on my blog. You must be busy catching up and keeping up with so many blogs. But, I appreciate it. I am always amazed at how many people have a connection to MN. A great place to live!

Have a graet weekenD! Michele

Ms. Chunky Chick said...

Its true, pretty just doesn't come out of no where but when your heavier people get blinded by the weight. Doesn't matter your great in my eyes and I am glad you can see the outside pretty is as nice as the inside pretty